with Relationship Sexpert Larry James
Is Her NOT 'Coming' Getting in the Way of Your Relationship?
Gabrielle Moore, Guest Author
Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. It's a fact that men and women are different and that extends to achieving sexual pleasure as well.
Take for instance the topic of orgasms; men reach their climax sooner than women. Period.
Unfortunately, since the reasons WHY a woman does not reach an orgasm as fast as a man are not explored, what happens is that the sexual relationship
generally develops into one where reaching her orgasm is not even an objective!
Society has a lot to do with this. It seems that women, in general, have been raised with the mentality that when it comes to sex, his orgasm is
the goal. As for her, it's ok; it's natural that she doesn't reach an orgasm. And while couples easily accept this, what most people don't realize
is that a woman not reaching her orgasm is actually the root of MANY relationship problems.
Relationship Problems Caused by Your Partner Not Reaching an Orgasm
Sexual Frustration. Imagine if you have sex with your partner and you're never given the chance to reach your climax.
That's a dreadful thought,
isn't it? You probably wouldn't even call it 'having sex' at all. Think of all that frustration inside you that just grows after each time you have
sex. Well, it's the same for women!
Even though it would take longer for women to reach the point of 'sexual frustration', they will reach it one way or the other. And this frustration
will manifest itself in many different areas in your relationship.
Resentment. You can't blame women for wanting what they see as an obviously great and pleasurable experience for you.
If you don't take the time to
learn how to bring her to an orgasm, then she will soon begin to resent your 'selfishness' in bed. After all, why should you have all the fun?
You may find great techniques here.
Again, this resentment may start small but sooner or later, it will grow and reveal itself in other areas of your relationship. For instance, she
may become short-tempered with you, and you will see this as simply her being annoying or a nag. Do you see how this can easily become a big problem
in your relationship?
Decrease in Sexual Intimacy. For many women, instead of discussing the topic of female orgasm with their partners, they deal with their sexual
frustration by turning to other things such as using sex toys or engaging in self-pleasure or masturbation. While using pleasure toys and pleasuring
one's self is not bad at all, using it as a permanent substitute to reach an orgasm is!
Pretty soon, the act of making love itself will look less and less thrilling for her. After all, she knows she can get greater pleasure from her
sex toys and through masturbation than by making love with you. As a result, she will be less and less inclined to engage in sex.
And now the tables have turned. As she loses interest in sex, now YOU are the one who's going to start to feel sexually frustrated.
Find new ways to recover sexual creativity here.
Relationship Withdrawal. When physical intimacy decreases, overall relationship closeness begins to decline as well.
You see, if you don't make
love, you also don't reach that magical moment called 'afterglow', when a couple truly bonds after having sex.
Think about it this way: each day that you don't make love, is a day that brings the two of your further and further apart.
Infidelity. If a woman gets to experience sexual pleasure only through sex toys and by the use of her own
hand, and if this makes her lose interest in the sexual act itself with you, then imagine how 'easy' it can be for her to fall for another man!
If a woman meets a person who can bring her tremendous physical pleasure that no one has ever given her before, isn't it logical that she would
fall head over heels over this person? After all, in her eyes, it's this person who truly cares about her. Otherwise, why would he go to such great
lengths to pleasure her?
Female orgasms are not often talked about but in reality, a lot of relationships suffer the consequences of women not reaching their climax.
So if you want a great relationship, one that's also characterized by great sex, then the best thing you can do is to ENSURE you know how to make her
reach her climax. To learn more, click here
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