Celebrate Intimacy

with Relationship Sexpert Larry James

47. Be daring! Make love in a closet at a friends house during a party. Feel the surge of erotic shock waves spread throughout your body as you dare not make to much noise.

48. Make love near the beach, on the rocks, near a churning ocean! Or, buy a CD with ocean sounds and do it in the living room on a blanket sprinkled lightly with sand.

49. Rent a canoe and make love in the middle of the lake.

50. Ahoy! Have sex against the ladder to a lifeguard tower, in the middle of a bright, moon lit night.

51. Do it in the parking lot of a country church for a real spiritual experience!

52. Make some whoopee lying on the laundry room floor in a pile of warm clothes, fresh from the dryer.

53. Dress to thrill. Sexy, erotic underwear or. . . none at all.

54. Watch your favorite erotic movie together. . . naked, doing what you see that you like.

55. Serve an irresistible elixir to your lover in bed. The seductive standby, champagne with flutes is always a favorite. Sip champagne from her belly button!

56. Make love in the back of an SUV. When the windows fog over, write "I love you" on the glass.

57. Indulge in foreplay to an excess. Go for an hour; without penetration. What a novel idea. Use your fingers, mouth, tongue and other parts of your body. Don't go straight for the genitals. Tickle and tease her inner thighs. As lightly as you can, caress her breasts. Create a sexual frenzy. Discover her moan zones. Unbearably horny is the goal. Keep her teetering on the brink to intensify her sensations. Make it last. Then do the thing.

58. Make love under a sun umbrella on a secluded, sandy beach.

59. Camp out in a tent with one large sleeping bag. Make love. Once the sounds of love have subsided, lie in in your lover's arms, content. Stay awake. Continue soft language. Touch, fondle and caress. Stay connected sexually. Experience the after-glow with a precious closeness only people in love can experience. Savor the moment.

60. Shower your lover with a body topping. Paint your partner with warm chocolate. Have your own "lick fest!" Doing this blindfolded is fun too.

61. Tie him up to the bed posts with a pair of your nylon stockings, spread eagle. Tease him and please him. Bring him close to climax, then slack off and begin again, then slack off and. . . well, you get the picture. Caress and kiss him everywhere. Give him the hot shivers. Play him like a favorite toy.

62. Purchase a silent, strap-on vibrator for your sweetheart and have her wear it to a party. Carry a wireless multi-speed remote control and turn it on and off as you wish. Get off watching her quivver. Watch to see if anyone else notices.

63. In the stillness of the early morning, gently touch and embrace his penis. Wake him up slowly. Stroke, caress, and kiss. Tell him in your most sexy voice what you are going to do next. This puts a new twist to "getting up" in the morning.

64. Delight her with a dildo or two for a passionate pick-me-up. Let it be "her" turn to have an earth shattering orgasm.

65. Write a sexy make-out message with an invitation for sex and put it in a small bottle. Draw your lover a warm bubble bath. Leave the bottle floating for him/her to find hidden among the bubbles.

66. Idea for the gals. Have a tempting, sexy dinner date in your favorite restaurant. Play footsie between his legs under the table. Wear a thong or g-string. Toward the end of the meal, excuse yourself, go to the bathroom and take off your underwear. When you return, hand it to him under the table. Look at him and in your sexiest, most erotic voice whisper, "I want you in the car in the parking lot!"

67. Kidnap your lover. Blindfold them and take them to a secluded area and have sex or make love. There is a difference you know.

68. Tenderly caress and kiss her inner thigh. Feel and taste her wetness. Umm, good. Touch her softly with your tongue. Focus your attention where her body movements tell you it feels good.

69. Prolong your passion with conversation during your sexual encounters. Craft your relevant words to magnify the moment. Delight in verbal foreplay. Talk about what you are doing, how it feels, whether you like it and what you need. Remember to listen too. Make a joyful noise. Scream. Moan. Sounds create excitement. Grind. Fondle. Toss and turn. Nuzzle. Lick. Cuddle. Kiss and suck. Discuss your needs. If your partner is driving you wild, let your passion show - better yet, say so. Silent sex is an insult. Great sex is founded on good communication.

A few final words - Avoid the ho hum sexual rut. Joyfully say goodbye to the same old same old. Be creative in your lovemaking. Be adventurous and eager to try new ideas. Consider lovemaking an important activity. Waiting until it's convenient is a mistake. Put it at the top of your priorities. Read and study books about sex together.

Consistently play out your sexual romps with suspense, intrigue and surprise. Be spontaneous. Making love with someone you love is your ultimate connection. Unwaveringly do the things that brought you together in the first place. Frequently say, "I love you," aloud. Revisit #57. Allow sex to be a sinfully delicious and fun encounter full of nearly infinite possibilities.

There is a direct correlation between the number of times you make love and the number of disagreements or arguments you have over the same time period. Relationship problems always show up in the bedroom.

If you are not having regular sex, finding excuses not to be together, feeling more like roommates than lovers or have considered having an affair. . . get help.

It is wiser to choose to work together on the relationship you have, rather than to begin again.

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Copyright © - Larry James. Adapted from the book, " Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers: The Importance of Great Sexual Communication and Other Essentials for Extraordinary Hot Sex!."

•  If you would like to talk one-on-one with Larry James about relationship issues related to this article, you are invited to arrange for a private coaching session by telephone. Go to Personal Relationship Coaching for specific details.

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