with Relationship Sexpert Larry James
Sex Quiz: Are You in
a Low-Sex Relationship?
Another important message at the Smart Marriages conference
and in the media lately is the finding that many married couples are in low sex or no sex relationships.
Researchers such as Barry McCarthy and Michele Weiner Davis define "sexless marriages" as relationships in which couples have sex
less than 10 times a year. Some 20% of all married couples fall into this category. Surprisingly, we also hear of many engaged and
newlywed couples who struggle with this issue.
Take this brief quiz taken from Barry and Emily McCarthy's new book,
"Rekindling Desire: A Step-by-Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages"
to determine if you are in a low-sex relationship. Print this page, then check each item either True or False. Next, score your
results and get to work!
1. Sex is more work than play. True False
2. Touching always leads to intercourse. True False
3. Touching takes place only in the bedroom. True False
4. You no longer look forward to making love. True False
5. Sex does not give you feelings of connection and sharing. True False
6. You never have sexual thoughts or fantasies about your spouse. True False
7. Sex limited to a fixed time, such as Saturday nights or Sunday mornings. True False
8. One of you is always the initiator, and the other feels pressure. True False
9. You look back on pre-marital sex as the best time. True False
10. Sex has become mechanical and routine. True False
11. You have sex once or twice a month at most. True False
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Scoring: If you answered "True" five or more times or if you answered "True" to question 11, you are in a low-sex marriage.
Now it's up to you are you willing to work on changing this? Early intervention is the best for sexual issues.
Copyright © - Larry James. Adapted from the book, "Rekindling Desire: A Step-by-Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages."
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Rekindling Desire: A Step-by-Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages -
Barry & Emily McCarthy - This book first shows couples how to root out the "poisons" that inhibit sexual desire: shame,
guilt, anger, passivity, as well as medical side effects and physical dysfunctions. With sensitivity and tact, the
McCarthys then lay out concrete techniques and effective strategies that help couples increase sexual awareness,
confront inhibitions, revitalize desire, and integrate intimacy and eroticism.
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• If you would like to talk
one-on-one with Larry James about relationship issues related to this article, you are invited to arrange for a
private coaching session by telephone. Go to Personal Relationship Coaching
for specific details.
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